I started working in corporate America 20+ years ago. During those 20 years I built lots of relationships and worked my butt off to climb the corporate ladder.
Having mentors and sponsors is always a good thing, it helps push you and makes you more accountable for your actions, promises and should push you to achieve your goals without having the pressure of having to ask your boss for advice.
But sometimes having a mentor or a sponsor within your same company is almost the same as talking to your boss. No matter how big the company is, everyone knows each other and everyone talks. Our company had a mentor program, Where they would match you up with a mentor that can help you with what you determined were things that you wanted to develop. But, like I said before everyone knows each other and everyone talks so you don’t have the freedom just say exactly what you really want To say.
There are lots of organizations or meet up groups that are trying to fill this gap. But, they often cater to niche groups or don’t have real structure.
If you’re lucky enough to have a mentor in your company or outside of your company, there are three things that you should focus on.
Here are 3 Simple Steps to Get the Most Out of Your Mentor
- What’s the Problem? – What are you trying to solve? Know what exactly what it is that you want or need to help with. What is your development area? You want your mentor to be strong in the area that you feel you need personal or professional development. If you’re unsure what your development areas are, That is something that you can discuss with your manager or even your peers as a way. At your next 1:1 meeting with your manager you can ask…
“Hi, I wanted to ask you if there was anything you feel I should focus on more or need to work on? I think real time feedback is important so I hope you wouldn’t mind sharing with me now.”
- What’s the Assessment of the Problem? – Have at least three questions for your mentor each time that you meet with them. Have a notebook or wherever you want to take notes of all of your sessions to keep track of what he’s asked you to do, what you’re looking to accomplish and track progress towards during the week. Also jot down any obstacles you face along the way so that your mentor can help you.
- What’s are the ‘Possible’ Solutions? – Solutions to the problems you’ve defined or discovered in Step 1. Come up with clear goals you feel may address the feedback you’ve received. When creating goals always have 3 goals in 3 categories….
– Tasks to get done before next meeting
– Monthly Goals
– Quarterly Goals
Anything longer than quarterly Goals isn’t necessary at this point. You can talk about your longterm plans or vision with your mentor so they can steer you in the right direction but for week to week discussions this breakdown is fine. Now these goals can be an mix of personal development and professional development or even very specific project task oriented goals that are part of your job.
You want to treat these sessions like a professional meeting. You may not want to get too formal but you definitely want to have some formality at the meeting in order it to be truly productive for you. I’ve experienced many mentor sessions where we were just shooting the breeze having coffee and I got nothing out of it.
When selecting your mentor, Make sure you ask them if they would like to be your mentor so that they truly understand that they’re there to help you and not just a friend or colleague that’s giving you advice. Give them the highlights of the things that you need help with to see if they feel that they can actually help you with details.
Remember to take these things seriously. Come prepared, come on time, come dressed professionally to show your mentor respect for his or her time.
Now remember that a mentor/mentee relationship is important. Not everyone is meant to be a mentor, so don’t get discouraged if your first mentor does not meet your needs. You both need to feel comfortable with this new relationship. There’s no shame in telling your mentor that you don’t feel you’re a good match for what you want to develop. Your mentor should also change over time as you grow in your career and as your needs change.
I’m lucky enough to have a big network of mentors in my business.